This episode is gonna be about life but I guess what I am interested in talking about is the fact that quite often we focus on the negative things in life.
We look at little tiny disappointments, or things that don't just happen the way that we would like them to and we consider them failures. We let that be a part of who we think we are sometimes.
"Quite often we don't give ourselves enough credit for the things that go right."
I think a lot of times people, are by nature, focusing on the negative. What I would like to emphasize is that rather than being discouraged by the little things that go wrong or things that don't work out the way that we hoped they would, or we were thinking I got this I got this nailed and then life puts a twist on it for us... and then all of a sudden, oh my gosh my world's ending, everything is is jacked up.
If we sit back and think about it, and reflect on it. There's often more victories in our life than fails. Fails have to happen. By their nature, fails are designed to teach us, and we can learn from victories, but we learn more from fails.
Whether it's that we were overconfident and thought that we could handle a situation better than we actually did, or in that fail, we learned that we still have plenty of stuff to learn while on this planet.
But most people do not concentrate on the small little victories that they have.
I say heck, I'm 57 years old. Every day that I wake up I think that that's a victory. Every time my eyes open and I take a deep breath, and I know I've got a little longer on this planet, I see it as a victory.
So, sometimes victories can be great and oh yeah we're on top of the world, oh geez till the next time we kill our victories with disappointment and our life is in turmoil again.
But in general, if we as people, and I struggle with as much as anybody else, look at everything we do right, everything that we work toward that we get, even if it's little things like a stripe or earning the next belt, or learning a technique that two weeks ago you thought there's no way on the planet I'm ever going to be able to do that. Then you realize that you can achieve much more.
Reaching a goal that you say, Okay, I want to have my next belt in a certain amount of time and I'm going to do whatever it takes. You do do the work, you're going to make the sacrifice. And when you achieve that, go ahead and allow the excitement that is not in the victory of achieving it, as much as, it's all those little tiny baby steps, those little victories.
Those little, tiny daily victories that allow us to accomplish stuff.
So, take the next week. And keep track of every victory that happens in your life. You are going to realize that you have tons of victories to celebrate. Tons of things to be grateful for that you're able to accomplish.
Then all of a sudden, those disappointments, those little, oh it didn't go the way I wanted, oh, it didn't happen when I wanted it to, become a little bit more insignificant.
When we can track all of the little victories we have in a week or month, we could add them up over a year's time and put them on a scale with the things that didn't go the way we want it to the things that didn't happen exactly as planned, you're probably going to find out that the victory side of that is going to be way heavier than the disappointments.
So, by counting and keeping track of the things that go right, little victories, track the big ones too, you track the little victories that you're probably gonna feel a lot better in general about how your life is going and realize that the more positive we see our life, and what we're doing, and our reason for being, the more we can ignore those things that don't go as planned.
I think that has a lot to do with how you think about yourself. If you focus on the negative things on those little things that don't go right, the things that don't happen the way you want them to. What am I going to do, my life's always messed up? Your life will be "messed up".
You focus on the little victories. You celebrate your victories, no matter how small they are and all of a sudden you start feeling a lot better about yourself about your lot in life.
I think the better we feel, because we're aware are these little victories, the better we feel about ourselves, the better our outlook is, the more opportunity for more victories will happen for us.
So, I'll leave you with a thought.
Personally, I am not a victim of my circumstance. I am the product of my decisions.
Think about that.
We accept the fact that we are a product of the decisions that we make in life. Our decisions are really based on that self-talk, that inner voice that says My life is in shambles, or, I got a pretty good.
That's going to continue to affect the decisions that we make, which turns out to be the end product, not of what happens to us. But of what we decide to do.
So until next time, make tomorrow, a great day for someone in your life.
Thanks for your time. Bye.